Saturday, February 26, 2011

communication

I've been married ten years now and I'm far from an expert on communication, but I do think there are a few things that you should NEVER say to your spouse so that there is at least potential for some level of peace in the home.

I was reading thru ephesians 5 (the best teaching on marriage in scripture) and tried to think of ways I can be a better listener and communicator.

Here is my list of things you should never say to your wife---

1. "I'm sorry, what was that? I wasn't really listening" --Showing interest and focusing on her when speaking is paramount, Jon, turn off the basketball game!!

2. You always (fill in the blank) You never (fill in the blank)--these two words "never" help. Use "i feel like sometimes" even if you think its all the time, you have a much better chance of being heard

3. "your overreacting!!" Even if that's true, she's never going to admit that on the spot. Something like "I don't blame you for being upset, Let's try to fix the problem" will go a lot farther.

4. "you know that was a lot better when my mom made it a few weeks ago" Never criticize cooking and never compare to mom!! Watch for flying objects after this one.

5. "Of course I know your birthday!! It's on....(any pause at all here to think and you're dead......RIP)

6. "have you seen that commercial for the slim sauna belt designed to get rid of saddlebags?" Again, watch for UFO's if you go there.

7. "Happy anniversary, I didn't have time to go to the store but I sent you an E-card, check your junk-mail" ---Fail.

8. "Honey, I was just trying to tidy up the bedroom, is this a fitted sheet or your underwear?"--not good.

9. "are you sure you're really ready to deliver? Last time my feet got really sore standing by the bed that whole time"--pretty much any comments made during pregnancy and especially toward the end will prove detrimental to your health and future.

10. " I think the bathroom scale is measuring at least five pounds light"

Maybe this will help, prolly not. I'll post what women shoulnd't say to husbands too if I can think of any.

Friday, February 25, 2011

the double j






As I posted, Addy turned five last week so we headed out to the JJ resort as a fam to tackle the water park. The girls needed a minute to warm up, but they became brave enough to do the big slides by the end, although never by themselves so dad had to DRAG the rafts up three flights of stairs about fifty times!!!!!!

The hot tub could have been a little hotter for my taste, but other than that the park was fun, but not too big and the chlorine smell was stronger than the kid pee smell so that's always a plus.

I thought about Calahari or somewhere bigger, but I thought they'll get a little older and we can build these things up in increments!!!

Wednesday, February 23, 2011

missing front teeth





It's happening. Our littlest one is growing up. Not only did she just turn five, but she has officially lost a front tooth and is on her way to becoming far to grown up for my liking=) She is soooooo cute and was proudly displaying her cheesy lost a tooth grin for all of her pre-school friends. They had cupcakes for snack to celebrate her birthday and she assured me that she could still eat them despite this new dental dilemma=) We are heading out to a waterpark (indoor) to celebrate her turning five so I'll post some more pics to come!!!

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

perspective

Sometimes its so easy to take for granted the freedoms we have to worship Jesus and forget that others are paying a tremendous price for their faith. Read this account and take a minute to pray for the people in Muslim strongholds that are standing up in the face of incredible persecution for the name of Jesus. I'm not sharing this for anything political, but rather to open our eyes.

Dear Father, Let the blood of these martyrs be the seed of your church and may every nation tribe and tongue declare that you are God.



America Quiet on the Execution of Afghan Christian Said Musa
February 18, 2011 6:00 A.M.
By Paul Marshall

A terrible drama is unfolding in Afghanistan: There are reports that Said Musa, whose situation I described at Christmas, will soon be executed for the ‘crime’ of choosing to become a Christian.

Musa was one of about 25 Christians arrested on May 31, 2010, after a May 27 Noorin TV program showed video of a worship service held by indigenous Afghan Christians; he was arrested as he attempted to seek asylum at the German embassy. He converted to Christianity eight years ago, is the father of six young children, had a leg amputated after he stepped on a landmine while serving in the Afghan Army, and now has a prosthetic leg. His oldest child is eight and one is disabled (she cannot speak). He worked for the Red Cross/Red Crescent as an adviser to other amputees.

He was forced to appear before a judge without any legal counsel and without knowledge of the charges against him. “Nobody [wanted to be my] defender before the court. When I said ‘I am a Christian man,’ he [a potential lawyer] immediately spat on me and abused me and mocked me. . . . I am alone between 400 [people with] terrible values in the jail, like a sheep.” He has been beaten, mocked, and subjected to sleep deprivation and sexual abuse while in prison. No Afghan lawyer will defend him and authorities denied him access to a foreign lawyer.

Any and every human being who is imprisoned, abused, or tortured for the free and peaceful expression of their faith deserves our support, but Musa is also a remarkable person and Christian. In a letter smuggled to the West, he says, “The authority and prisoners in jail did many bad behaviour with me about my faith in the Lord Jesus Christ. For example, they did sexual things with me, beat me by wood, by hands, by legs, put some things on my head.”

He added a thing much more important to him, that they “mocked me ‘he’s Jesus Christ,’ spat on me, nobody let me for sleep night and day. . . . Please, please, for the sake of Lord Jesus Christ help me.” (View the full letter here)

He has not, in fact, even appealed to be released, only to be transferred to another prison. He has also stated that he is willing to give his life for his faith. “Please, please you should transfer me from this jail to a jail that supervises the believers. . . . I also agree . . . to sacrifice my life in public [where] I will tell [about my] faith in Lord Jesus Christ, son of God, [so] other believers will take courage and be strong in their faith.”

Newspapers in the U.K. and elsewhere in Europe have reported the story, but with, the exception of the Wall Street Journal and, of course, NRO, American outlets have not found it worthy of attention. The Journal reports that “Afghan officials have been unapologetic: ‘The sentence for a convert is death and there is no exception,’ said Jamal Khan, chief of staff at the Ministry of Justice. ‘They must be sentenced to death to serve as a lesson for others.’”

The U.S. government — reportedly including Secretary of State Clinton — and other governments have pushed for his release, but to no avail.

But the president has been silent, even as we fight a war that has among its goals the creation of a government that conforms to international human-rights standards.

An American president certainly needs to guard and shepherd his political capital, and should not speak out about every prisoner. But Musa himself has appealed to “President Brother Obama” to rescue him from his current jail. And when an obscure and aberrant Florida pastor, Terry Jones, threatened to burn a Koran, not only President Obama but much of his cabinet, as well as General Petraeus, weighed in on the matter.

If the actions of a Florida pastor who threatened to destroy a book holy to Muslims deserved public and presidential attention, then the actions of the Afghan government, ostensibly a ‘democratic’ ally, to destroy something holy to Christians, a human being made in the image of God, also deserve public and presidential attention.

Monday, February 7, 2011

sledding and daddy time






Maybe Kindleburger hill was a little too big for the girls, but I give them credit for wanting to try!! Took the girls sledding on sunday night and I can't believe how big they are getting. I feel sometimes like the moments we have together are slipping thru my fingers like sand thru an hourglass (so are the days of our lives)

Walking up the hill together, I reached out to take Ava's hand so it would be easier to get up and I took that moment to try to draw parallels between what i was doing to help her and what Jesus does for us. I know that sounds like I'm super holy or something, but I really try to find ways to make Jesus real in their lives at a young age.

Anyways, we get almost to the top and Ava says 'Daddy?" I said "what honey?" "I love You"

My heart could have melted all the snow on that hill. It's hard to imagine that the creator of the Universe is even more moved when I say that to Him.

I love being a dad.

Friday, February 4, 2011

welcome the newest zondervan





No not a baby boy (yet), but a baby toy poodle. We recently welcomed charlie to the zondervan household in a half hearted attempt to level out the number of boys to girls=) He is only nine weeks old and literally smaller than my foot, (although that may not be a fair reference since my feet are huge) but he is teenie. He will probably only way 5-7 pounds full grown and although I am more of a big dog kind of guy, I think I'll have a soft spot for him pretty soon and the girls adore him already!!

Here's to the newest adventures to come in our home!!!